Why REAL reason true Healing is Always an inside game.

Hard Pill to swallow.

No one is coming to save you, No Government, No mummy, No Daddy, No Doctor, No priest, This is of course from the perspective of making changes on the inside.

We are the one that decide if we want to change and when we are fully committed, Nothing on the outside world can stop us.

we can complain from Now until the cows come home but if we keep blaming the outside world for our misfortune , without looking at how we maybe contributing to our own suffering then by default we let go of our own responsibilities.

This is called victim consciousness, where instead of taking responsibility for healing our past we project our hurt unto the outside world.

Projection and victim consciousness may look like

1. Blaming your parents and their behavior for why you are ,how you are

2. Telling others what they need to change without admitting your part

3. Condemning people you have different orientations than us.

4. Always on the look for someone or something to fix our problems.

Being a victim although very very justified at some point has to end.

This is a hard reality that i too had to contend with after living in my own mental prison some years ago.

I would allow myself to feel whole until some seemingly Goal in the future was meet and it left we with a constant discomfort that felt like a chronic low grade panic attack.

Support from the outside world is in fact a necessary thing and asking for assistants is also something that we sometimes needs to protest, but where is the line between being helped and uses having a sense of entitlement when the outside world reaches its capacity to give?

I struggled with this until I learnt the purpose of my existence on planet earth, it was to learn and grow and accept that truth as a fundamental part of this reality.

This major shift in perception allowed me to embrace challenge, to actively seek it out and to allow it to teach me how to love better. how to love myself, how to mother myself, how to father myself, how to govern myself, how to heal myself.

Healing starts from the inside first and then it proliferates through the environment.

when we get ourselves in order, we create order around us.

Healing is 100% our responsibility. that my two cent , maybe you'll disagree, id like to hear from you.

If you got to the end of this post without falling asleep , id like to thank you and also announce here that Im in the process of publishing my first book ever. I put a lot of heart and soul into this project and Im a bit nervous to put it out there, but I guess this is what my soul is demanding.

I'll make you guys a deal, if you dm me the word BOOK!, The first 5 people to do so, Ill send a copy when it is all finalize.

You can DM me on instagram and I'll put you down on my list @thee.marioholder or @mario.holder_art.

PEACE.